Must a wife always say yes to sex?

Forget the old wives’ tale that a married woman must be ever ready to satisfy her husband’s conjugal rites’ (how archaic!) but when push comes to shove, must a wife always be her husband’s ‘obedient servant’ in the bedroom? Some months back, two couples were asked about their mismatched libidos, and how it affected their marriage.

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While one partner claimed to be pretty much always in the mood, the other often felt pressured to have sex when they had little desire to do so. The challenge? For one month, the couples agreed they’d make love every time their partner made an advance. Would this highlight cracks in their relationship—or bring them closer together? Both couples kept diaries for four weeks.
COUPLE 1: Nathaniel, 38 an architect, and wife, Motoke, 40, an industrial nurse have been married for 12 years and have three children. While Nathaniel would like sex every night, Motoke says juggling work and family has sapped her libido, meaning she’s only in the mood a couple of times a month. Their score: Week 1: twice; Week 2: once, Week 3: once; Week 4: twice. Total: Six times in four weeks.
According to Nathaniel: I’m so excited at the prospect of being able to make love to my wife more often that, on the first night, even though I’m shattered after 12 hours at work, my heart is racing as we climb into bed at 10.30pm; even more thrilling, Motoke actually makes the first move—I cannot remember the last time that happened.

3 Causes of Marriage Failure: Money, Sex, and Communication

Any relationship is hard and any relationship can lead to a range of arguments and difficulties. However when it comes to marriage all of these difficulties are exacerbated – which is a shame because the steaks are also exacerbated. Suddenly you have a lot more to lose – a break up now means potentially losing your home, it means legal and financial difficulties and it may mean putting the rest of your family and particularly any children through a lot of difficulties. Perhaps then it's no coincidence that this is when things get really hard and some of the worst arguments can start. At this point it becomes crucial that you fight for your marriage and that you see these things through to the end or until there is some kind of resolution. However what would of course be far preferable would be for you to never find yourself in that situation in the first place. One way to help yourself try and avoid the common causes of marriage failure is to understand what they are so that you can have an action plan ready ahead of time. Here we will address then each of the big three problems and look at some of the things you can do to make them less of a problem.